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02 December 2009

Advice to Sisters-Stop posting pics online

Before I begin, I would like to plead to every reader to not jump to immediate conclusions and please lend an attentive ear and hear me through.Your reactions might vary according to single individuals.i hope very much that this shall be an eye-opener, something of a realization or a revelation. It's your conscience that I shall try to prickle by doing so.

Before I come to the heart of the issue,I would like to highlight on certain points which you might be lead to believe is totally out of topic but is completely interlinked and shall add insight. Let me begin with an introduction on Modesty and Shame.

Modesty literally means avoiding indecency or impropriety,
while Shame being: a feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.

My first advise is that we ponder over their meanings and look into the very depths of our souls and see if we have these two highly important traits in ourselves. I understand I've been doing enough beating around the bush trying to dodge the main subject, now I shall take a direct and personal approach.

"STOP POSTING YOUR PICTURES ON FACEBOOK!"

I can almost hear a collective gasp and many who have already considered reading all that was above a waste of their precious time.All I ask is to have some patience and give me the benefit of the doubt and read on. It is grieving to know that we,the teenage girls of today's world have stooped to such a low level and by doing so have endangered the dignity of Women in Society. It is unfathomable as to why the need arises for teenage girls to post their pictures on Fcebook.It is dis-heartening when one logs on to see the display of many photo's and images of special moments and fun gala's being showcased to the general public. I vowed to myself not to make this a religious viewpoint but I don't think the enormity of it can be conveyed by not bringing religion into this discussion. God Almighty says:

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) AND NOT TO REVEAL THEIR ADORNMENT EXCEPT TO their husbands, their fathers, their husbands fathers, their sons, their husbands sons, their brothers or their brothers sons, or their sisters sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigor, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful"
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #31)

Women are considered the jewels of society. How often do you see valuable jewellery encased with gemstones for instance being kept out in the open? Perhaps for trade purposes they are displayed in showcases. Otherwise, they are kept safe and special care is taken for their protection. When seen under light of this comparison what it implies is, by posting your pictures you are, in short ADVERTISING yourself. Every wandering eye sees you and measures your character. Have you ever wondered how much of yourself you are giving out by your images?

Even after being given such an esteemed position in the eyes of society, why are women striving so hard to try to snatch the spotlight in society ? To try observe a round-about social life? Have our hearts hardened so bad we can't see our misdeeds and are not striving to abstain from them? Yes! We understand times have changed.It is after all the 21st century."The modern era"----where change is imminent but can we compromise with religion in this instance? Can we forget the general teachings that we have been brought up with, in order to be socially active and to observe the niceties of the present in-lifestyle? I am not asking you to delete your Facebook account, just a simple request.DON'T POST YOUR PICS ON IT! We do understand the importance of staying in touch and knowing what our friends are up to and how they are doing? That does not necessarily justify us putting up loads of pics of ourselves, our families and friends.

Okay,many may counter argue by saying..i am not doing anything wrong.i am covered up in adequate clothes and some even with their cloaks(abaya's) and/or others with their scarves pinned up.I have modestly covered myself and have nothing to be ashamed of. How very wrong we are?

Modesty as you very well are aware (after the explanation) does not only include wearing decent clothing and appropriately covering yourself ,it has various other aspects..Modesty must be displayed in one's Acts and Behavior too! Is posting your picture on the Web modest? Ask yourself this question?

And the second important trait, Shame. If you have committed an error you find yourself guilty, regret it and perhaps vow never to do it again. But what if you don't have shame? You don't have a conscience? You sin! And are not sorry for it.Don't you think this is the case here? Aren't we ashamed of making ourselves a public exhibit?We go on doing it without thinking over the consequence?

Have we ever thought what shall become of our pictures?Anybody could copy the pictures and save it on their PC's..And what Guarantee do we have that these pictures wouldn't be seen by the members of the opposite sex!! And if, inshaAllah in the near future we decide to change?become far more modest in our clothing than we used to be? Even if it maybe by a small degree.We decide to cover the head, face or wear abaya,then what of our old pics? The ones the others have saved on their PC's..they shall have our pics till the very end of time and we won't be able to do anything about it.

And the other problem many girls have had to face was when their friends have put up their pictures without their consent.They are left with nothing to do but plead with their friends to remove their pictures.The friend unfortunately turns deaf ears to her.Not only are you displaying yourself but also others..Now how Grave could this get??so please think hard and long about this..

I don't want to have to pin the tail. I want everyone to chew over what I have said and come to terms on your own.Please think about everything said here.Its your pictures,and it's your choice what you do with it.All I can, is let you know why this shouldn't be done...

3 comments:

  1. Very Good advice!

    I do not have a FB page but have seen my husband's and I cannot tell you how sad I was to see other women all over FB and his friend's *friends* displayed on the walls. Girls all dressed up, make-up, hair unconvered...and these were Muslim women/girls(or at least that is what they say they are)

    InshaAllah someone will read this and think to themselves about it and instead of getting angry, they will do something.

    I've even thought twice about the pics I just posted on my blog of my children-though the face is covered in one and the other is distorted from crying-I am still fearful to have them there and very well may take them down.

    There are not only these reasons you listed as to the danger of posting photos on the web-but there is also the fact that there are evil people in this world, sick people and you never know...you just never know?!

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  2. JazakiAllah khair for this post.

    I don't like FB and don't even have an account.

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  3. I know some sisters who have Facebook and post a couple decent pictures. There's a way to post and be completely modest and the way to do this is to have the right people on your list and choose the setting so that your pictures are only seen by your friends. :D Ta-dah! Halal picture-posting and a halal Facebook experience.

    Unefortunately, most people don't really apply the mahram, non-mahram rules online, and with all the personal information that can be contained on Facebook, it's a pretty big problem.

    Thanks for the post.

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